4 Jul 2011

So, one of my longest and most beloved friendships has come to an end. I have cried my tears and am ready to talk. My exhusband, my bestfriend, a man I have traveled through many lifetimes together is now not talking to me. How do I explain this? His "girlfriend" is psycho. I put that in quotes cause he does not even really love her, he has said as much directly to me and through non-denials when I say it to him like that no matter what he tells others. He has allowed her to cut all ways of communication with him from me. I can not call her house, I am blocked from his wall unable to either see nor comment on his wall. He will not answer emails unless I am cussing and making him angry. This is no longer a friendship, he does not understand why I am upset about his behavior. He thinks his choices are his alone and only his to deal with. One daughter was pinned up against the wall by her throat by her, and his excuse is she was asking for a fight. Why? Cause she was protecting her dad from the abuse of this 'girlfriend'. My son is called a 'lazy F%$#' on facebook cause of his lack of finding a job and was ultimately thrown out of her house because of it, why? Cause she took him to find a job with street clothes on. I took him to one job in respectable clothes and he got it. She picks up my ex and throws him across the lawn through a lawn chair and into the hospital, why? Cause he said he doesnt want to be with her anymore. And now since his exes comment on his posts of ranting when he complains about her we have all been blocked. She apparently hacked his page, blocked all of us and he said, "ok, if that is what it takes to make you happy". Really? And I am the one who is being unreasonable? I am only the lastest in a long line of friends she has cut out of his life. The only ones who last are the ones who make friends with her. She doesnt like me because I refuse to be friends just because she is with my ex husband. Things do not work that way in my world. I am friends with those I actually like and can respect. I can not respect her for the harm she has caused. Anyone disagree with me??
I have been told I am being unreasonable, maybe I am but I am not wrong either. He deletes me from a group page just because he doesnt want our daughter (who is a member too) see how I talk to him or about him? That is a really lame reason, since she lives with me and has heard much worse that what I would write from me personally. I think his really reason is he doesnt want her to see him talk bad to me, or his hateful or useless excuses as to why he allows himself to be treated badly. He is behaving just like a battered housewife. Making excuses for the abuse. He needs an intervention but anyone who tries is kicked out of his life by her. How can we still be friends when there is no communication? Number one most important thing in any relationship is honesty, number two is communication. Without communication there is no relationship. The friendship is dead. I said my goodbyes. It was hard but I had to do it. While he cant or wont listen I cant talk. I have said that when he wants to repair the relationship I will be around.